And so to roleplay?
"Fantasy is hardly an escape from reality. It's a way of understanding it."
— Lloyd Alexander
"Fantasy is escapist, and that is its glory."
— J.R.R. Tolkien
"We read fantasy to find the colours again."
— Terry Pratchett
I want to speak on my sometime love of role-plays. When the dynamic dictates, the fun really lingers on in the mind, long after its over. It may well reveal some new aspect or edge of ourselves during the scene, or show a hint of a little something new of ourselves for a future scenario. The beauty of it is that it’s not anything you can predict.
Here I want to reveal some of the dynamics that have featured in my most favourite kinky sessions ever. And by me doing it, maybe I inspire you to think of some that might begin to play in your mind, too -
Age play
Domination (me active)
Authority figure dynamic
CNC
Restraint play with sensory deprivation
As one of my favourite fantasy authors said; "Fantasy is hardly an escape from reality. It's a way of understanding it." I do think our innermost desires are a reflection of our reality, ultimately of who we are whether it’s easy to accept, or maybe less so. Whatever the possible source of the fantasy, it reveals something beneath the surface about our innermost selves.
You’ll notice that the examples i wrote above are sub-leaning, but those who have met me may agree I am not usually a shy and submissive character in the everyday. Also I do see myself reaching more into dominant dynamics, it’s just I have so far, more rarely been given the opportunity to. Whatever dominant aspects of me are there, I know they’ll always have a somewhat sensualness about them, playful teasing while my partner’s faculties are suspended, tease and denial, a little verbal humiliation with it - as a Switch I know what touches can turn a good time into an excellent time, in an experiential sense.
Carl Jung saw fantasy and artistic expression as a kind of surrender to the unconscious, and when I am in the throes of a role-play or BDSM scene, I am aiming to be really not overly conscious of what I am doing, certainly I’m not over-thinking. This in itself makes it a very relaxing relief of an activity, and when you’re in a power dynamic or performing behaviours that isn’t usual, roles and responsibilities eschewed if only temporarily — even more the sense of system relief.
So shall we?